Comments on: Duped Dads http://dadz.com/duped-dads The best of the Web for dads Tue, 28 Jun 2011 19:54:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: herewegoagain http://dadz.com/duped-dads/comment-page-1#comment-381 herewegoagain Fri, 13 May 2011 06:57:43 +0000 http://www.dadz.com/?p=646#comment-381 Texas changed the duped dad laws effective TODAY! 5/12/2011 http://www.capitol.state.tx.us/tlodocs/82R/billtext/pdf/SB00785F.pdf#navpanes=0 Texas changed the duped dad laws effective TODAY! 5/12/2011

http://www.capitol.state.tx.us/tlodocs/82R/billtext/pdf/SB00785F.pdf#navpanes=0

]]> By: John http://dadz.com/duped-dads/comment-page-1#comment-250 John Sun, 12 Dec 2010 18:05:21 +0000 http://www.dadz.com/?p=646#comment-250 Here's my problem and question i guess. I married a woman who has 2 kids from someone else not knowing that once we were married i would become finacialy responsible for HER kids. When i found out about this "law" i was extremely angry. Their biological father dosen't pay any child support at all and never has paid anything to my wife even though he's been court ordered to so in consequence he goes to jail for 6 months every now and then, gets out and goes about living his life like nothing happened, "living it up" and for himself until and IF he goes back to jail for unpaid support and the cycle starts all over again on and on. So why should i be FORCED by law to finacially support his kids for as long as i am married to their mother, especially when he can get away with this? I didn't help give birth to them, i didn't adopt them, If i support someone elses kids shouldn't it be by my choice? Not something thats forced upon me by some ridiculous law because i wanted to marry their mother for whatever reason? This may not make me fit into the catagory of a "duped dad" by your definitions but i feel like one now. Here’s my problem and question i guess. I married a woman who has 2 kids from someone else not knowing that once we were married i would become finacialy responsible for HER kids. When i found out about this “law” i was extremely angry. Their biological father dosen’t pay any child support at all and never has paid anything to my wife even though he’s been court ordered to so in consequence he goes to jail for 6 months every now and then, gets out and goes about living his life like nothing happened, “living it up” and for himself until and IF he goes back to jail for unpaid support and the cycle starts all over again on and on. So why should i be FORCED by law to finacially support his kids for as long as i am married to their mother, especially when he can get away with this? I didn’t help give birth to them, i didn’t adopt them, If i support someone elses kids shouldn’t it be by my choice? Not something thats forced upon me by some ridiculous law because i wanted to marry their mother for whatever reason? This may not make me fit into the catagory of a “duped dad” by your definitions but i feel like one now.

]]> By: Ray http://dadz.com/duped-dads/comment-page-1#comment-240 Ray Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:02:01 +0000 http://www.dadz.com/?p=646#comment-240 Here's my story. I was happily married in 1993, but due to wife's medical problems, we could not have children. Well, 10 years later in 2003, after my wife lost a lot of weight, her problems seemed to have corrected themselves and our first child was born. In 2007. we welcomed another baby girl into our lives. We had been thru a lot as a family, but after we lost our home to Hurricane Katrina, things started to turn around for us. We got a brand new beautiful home, I got a promotion at work which allowed my wife to be a stay-at-home mom. Well, on one fateful morning in May of 2009, my wife tells me that she's not in lovwe with me anymore and that she had been cheating on me for 2 and 1/2 years. I asked who my youngest child's father was and she admitted that she didn't know. Well, DNA testing proved that she wasn't. My wife wanted to take the kids and go live with her "boyfriend" that she met online in Indiana. Well, a trip to my attorney and a restraining order prevented that. Angered by my actions, my wife decided to leave the fmaily home and go live with Mr. Wonderful in Indiana. She left the kids behind and I happily took care of them. Well 3 months later, she gets her own attorney and moves back to Louisiana and decides to fight for custody. Well, after digging a little bit, I discovered that my wife had been having numerous affairs with several different men. When confronted, she of course denied it. Well, I recently had my oldest daughter DNA tested and it turns out that she isn't mine either. I've also come to learn that my wife's "boyfriend" will not claim paternity of the youngest because he does not wish to be financially responsible for her. My wife and I divorced in November of last year and now she plans on marrying this world class yo-yo and she wants to get custody of the kids and live off of my child support payments. How is this considered justice? My only choice is to either pay child support for two kids who aren't mine so that my ex and her significant other can life a life of comfort - OR - I can disavow my children and be free of any and all financial obligations. The problem with that is, I also lose my rights to ever see my the children again and my ex is evil enough and vile enough to keep them from me. I LOVE my kids. Biology doesn't matter to me. I love them is if they are my very own flesh and blood, but I don't want to "reward" my ex's despicable behavior by making out a check to her every month to support children that aren't mine. If she's marrying my youngest's true father, why shoudln't HE pay to support her? Besides, I know my ex will NOT use the money for the kids. She was never able to manage money properly and she will most likely use the money to pay rent or a house note for her and Indiana Turd. Is that justice? Is that what the laws in this country allow to happen? I am so torn. I don't want to pay the ex-bitch for the next 16 years, but I don't want to ever be without my children. I have since met a wonderful woman and have remarried and if I have to pay my ex for the next 16 years, it will affect the financial stability of my new wife and family (she has kids of her own). Why should I work my fingers to the bone so that my lying, sick, twisted bitch of an ex wife and her piece of crap soon-to-be-husband can live on easy street? This is driving me absolutely crazy and I don't knwo where to turn! Here’s my story. I was happily married in 1993, but due to wife’s medical problems, we could not have children. Well, 10 years later in 2003, after my wife lost a lot of weight, her problems seemed to have corrected themselves and our first child was born. In 2007. we welcomed another baby girl into our lives. We had been thru a lot as a family, but after we lost our home to Hurricane Katrina, things started to turn around for us. We got a brand new beautiful home, I got a promotion at work which allowed my wife to be a stay-at-home mom. Well, on one fateful morning in May of 2009, my wife tells me that she’s not in lovwe with me anymore and that she had been cheating on me for 2 and 1/2 years. I asked who my youngest child’s father was and she admitted that she didn’t know. Well, DNA testing proved that she wasn’t. My wife wanted to take the kids and go live with her “boyfriend” that she met online in Indiana. Well, a trip to my attorney and a restraining order prevented that. Angered by my actions, my wife decided to leave the fmaily home and go live with Mr. Wonderful in Indiana. She left the kids behind and I happily took care of them. Well 3 months later, she gets her own attorney and moves back to Louisiana and decides to fight for custody. Well, after digging a little bit, I discovered that my wife had been having numerous affairs with several different men. When confronted, she of course denied it. Well, I recently had my oldest daughter DNA tested and it turns out that she isn’t mine either. I’ve also come to learn that my wife’s “boyfriend” will not claim paternity of the youngest because he does not wish to be financially responsible for her. My wife and I divorced in November of last year and now she plans on marrying this world class yo-yo and she wants to get custody of the kids and live off of my child support payments. How is this considered justice? My only choice is to either pay child support for two kids who aren’t mine so that my ex and her significant other can life a life of comfort – OR – I can disavow my children and be free of any and all financial obligations. The problem with that is, I also lose my rights to ever see my the children again and my ex is evil enough and vile enough to keep them from me.

I LOVE my kids. Biology doesn’t matter to me. I love them is if they are my very own flesh and blood, but I don’t want to “reward” my ex’s despicable behavior by making out a check to her every month to support children that aren’t mine. If she’s marrying my youngest’s true father, why shoudln’t HE pay to support her? Besides, I know my ex will NOT use the money for the kids. She was never able to manage money properly and she will most likely use the money to pay rent or a house note for her and Indiana Turd.

Is that justice? Is that what the laws in this country allow to happen?

I am so torn. I don’t want to pay the ex-bitch for the next 16 years, but I don’t want to ever be without my children. I have since met a wonderful woman and have remarried and if I have to pay my ex for the next 16 years, it will affect the financial stability of my new wife and family (she has kids of her own). Why should I work my fingers to the bone so that my lying, sick, twisted bitch of an ex wife and her piece of crap soon-to-be-husband can live on easy street?

This is driving me absolutely crazy and I don’t knwo where to turn!

]]> By: David http://dadz.com/duped-dads/comment-page-1#comment-237 David Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:32:53 +0000 http://www.dadz.com/?p=646#comment-237 Thanks for sharing your story Mark! Sorry you were burnt so badly. I hope the kid isn't privy to the nasty set of circumstances. Thanks for sharing your story Mark! Sorry you were burnt so badly. I hope the kid isn’t privy to the nasty set of circumstances.

]]> By: Mark Argust http://dadz.com/duped-dads/comment-page-1#comment-236 Mark Argust Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:25:44 +0000 http://www.dadz.com/?p=646#comment-236 Add me to the list of "Duped Dads". I've been fighting this thing for years and it shows no signs of getting any better. The child was born in 1990 and his mother and I divorced in 1993. I had no reason to believe that the child wasn't mine and paid child support for 9 years. I only got to see him 3 times since 1993. When I had him tested using DNA, it just confirmed my suspicions. Now the Florida Department of Revenue is garnishing my wages to collect back support. I am a single parent of a son (I've tested and know he's mine) and he suffers because the State of Florida is in my pocket for a kid that isn't. I have to represent myself because I can't afford a lawyer which I know won't help(a fool for a client). I live in Texas and the AG here wont help so, in January, I'm headed to Florida for a week to see if I can get this thing resolved(I have to try). The child is now 19 and has been informed by me of the situation. His mother still wont say who his real father is....shameful. The only winners here are his mother and her lover/his father. I have learned my lesson and have already corrected the problem.......Vasectomy!!!!!!!!! Life's a Bitch after you marry one. My suggestion to prevent this problem in the future is simple....DNA verification at birth will make this dissappear quicker than it has in the media and courtroom....and that's fast!!!! Add me to the list of “Duped Dads”. I’ve been fighting this thing for years and it shows no signs of getting any better. The child was born in 1990 and his mother and I divorced in 1993. I had no reason to believe that the child wasn’t mine and paid child support for 9 years. I only got to see him 3 times since 1993. When I had him tested using DNA, it just confirmed my suspicions. Now the Florida Department of Revenue is garnishing my wages to collect back support. I am a single parent of a son (I’ve tested and know he’s mine) and he suffers because the State of Florida is in my pocket for a kid that isn’t. I have to represent myself because I can’t afford a lawyer which I know won’t help(a fool for a client). I live in Texas and the AG here wont help so, in January, I’m headed to Florida for a week to see if I can get this thing resolved(I have to try). The child is now 19 and has been informed by me of the situation. His mother still wont say who his real father is….shameful. The only winners here are his mother and her lover/his father. I have learned my lesson and have already corrected the problem…….Vasectomy!!!!!!!!! Life’s a Bitch after you marry one. My suggestion to prevent this problem in the future is simple….DNA verification at birth will make this dissappear quicker than it has in the media and courtroom….and that’s fast!!!!

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