An article about new dad Perez Hilton in the LA Times got me to thinking about whether fatherhood softens a man up.
The article: BY ROBIN ABCARIAN – PHOTO BY KIRK MCKOY
LA Times: Kinder and gentler: The rumors about Perez Hilton are true
Once the most hated gossip blogger in Hollywood, he’s toned down the nastiness and seeks ‘good energy’ for his baby boy. The new approach hasn’t hurt his popularity.
Excerpts: There is a new calmness about Hilton, who was for years at the center of a self-created hurricane. Among the lawsuits, the online spats and the occasional punch in the face, Rolling Stone once said he had more beefs than the entire rap community combined.
Most striking is the way he’s cradling a 2-week-old baby, a preemie who was born to a secret surrogate four weeks early. During a two-hour interview that involves a long bottle feeding and plenty of new dad tears, he never lets his fragile son out of his arms.
Perez Hilton, is that really you?
The author of the article concludes that it is indeed Perez Hilton, the new daddy-fied version.
I find it more surprising that people are surprised about the apparent reincarnation of this dad than the fact that he changed. It’s a good sign that the man is “real”. If he were all about money, fame, or ego he’d bury his obvious unbridled happiness and put on his ugly attack dog image that has served him so well (or at least his wallet). I don’t know much about Perez Hilton, but having had 4 of my own baby boys pass through my arms at the start of their journey I can attest to the powerful emotions having a baby stirs up.
Soft? I don’t know if “soften” is the right word, but certainly a new set of priorities and respect for fellow mankind is inevitable when a man has a child (at least for most men) and its nice to have a high profile Hollywood character to demonstrate the effects of that softening-up for all to see.
I hope the constant petty onslaught by the paparazzi doesn’t chink Perez Hilton’s daddy-armor and push him back over to the dark side.